Although I seem like a very calm person, I frequently suffer from anxiety, especially at night when I should be sleeping. The nights are often very long and I often find myself worrying about things that I can’t control, such as the happiness of my children. They are all fully grown so I shouldn’t worry about them so much, but they all have their issues and I don’t think you ever stop being a parent.
I’ve got three favourite podcasts that I routinely listen to when I need to stop thinking and quieten down my mind.
Elis James and John Robins
This is my go-to podcast when I’m feeling stressed or my mind is racing with unhelpful thoughts. It’s the podcast version of a radio show broadcast in London every Saturday morning. These two guys are really funny and I especially love listening to Elis’s lilting Welsh accent. They have quite a following amongst many people who are depressed or anxious, but its not a depressing show, far from it. It often makes me giggle. In fact, the only downside of listening to this show is that I worry about disturbing my husband lying next to me, usually snoring his head off. I listen through my headphones but I’m often conscious that I’m making the bed shake with laughter.
John is a neurotic vegan and a massive fan of Freddy Mercury, so many of their conversations circle back to his love of all things related to Queen. They also talk a lot about “living your best life” and seem genuinely delighted when people write in to say that they have given up a job they’ve always hated or made some kind of improvement to their lives. Although the banter and argue, they are generally very supportive of one another and rarely nasty about anyone. In a world where everyone seems to be busy being better and more successful than anyone else, it’s wonderful to listen to a couple of guys being really open about their own worries and insecurities as well as their hopes and dreams.
John in particular is very open about his own struggles with ‘the darkness’ as he calls it. He completely normalises the fact that struggling with mental health issues doesn’t mean you’re weird or sad. Judging from the number of emails they receive from listeners who are facing similar situations, it’s clear that many people struggle with depression and anxiety, often cripplingly so.
One funny segment on the show features the “shame well”. Listeners write in asking to be absolved from the shame they feel about situations they’ve found themselves in, often long ago. My favourite story was from a listener who had found himself accidentally locked in at his office. It was at the end of the day and everyone had gone home so (very resourcefully) he decided to escape from the building through the air-conditioning vent rather than call for help. He didn’t want to disturb his boss because he was a thoughtful person and it was the weekend! He was unaware that he had set off the security system and even more embarrassingly, that his escape had been recorded by the security cameras, featuring a rather a large expanse of backside which had been revealed by struggling through the small opening into the air-conditioning vent. Needless to say, he cringed with embarrassment the next day when he arrived at work to find his boss and all his colleagues crowded around a monitor, watching the video and laughing at his antics.
I really felt for him as I was once caught in a similar situation in an office block in the city. I had inadvertently caught the service elevator and ended up stranded in an office foyer. I could see the street outside but I couldn’t get out and I couldn’t get the elevator to come back. I can’t remember how I escaped (it wasn’t through the air-conditioning shaft) but I remember panicking and feeling very, very stupid. In this segment John and Elis talk through the situation, have a laugh and reassure the listener that everyone does silly things sometimes, often for the best of reasons, but sometimes for no reason at all.
Adrift
This is a fairly new podcast, also English, that I discovered quite recently. It’s hosted by Annabel Port and Geoff Lloyd, two people who seem to know a lot about social anxiety. It’s also very funny as people write in with their own stories of weirdness. I find it very comforting to hear about other people who are just as odd as me. I especially love hearing that there are other people who don’t feel comfortable when the barista at the coffee shop gets just a little bit too familiar with you, just because you come into the shop every day. I completely understand that a person might decide to go to several different coffee shops just to prevent this situation occurring… It’s not that we don’t like people being friendly. We just don’t like them being too friendly when we hardly know them.
The show is described as…
A comic tragedy for anyone flailing in the sea of their own inadequacy. Sony Radio Award winners Geoff Lloyd and Annabel Port steer a life-raft through the choppy waters of being a functional human.
As a person who worries too much about nearly everything (including what other people think of me), this show makes me feel right at home.
The Adam Buxton Show
Adam is a comedian who is unfailingly cheerful and positive about life. He chats to people working in music, theatre, design and film. His “ramble chats” are just that. He talks to interesting people about random subjects. They often cover a lot of ground.
He also has some lovely jingles which I he writes himself. They’re very catchy and I occasionally find myself humming them to myself when I’m driving the car. He’s an excellent interviewer and I find his gentle and non-confrontational interviewing style to be really soothing in the wee small hours. I like the way each episode starts with him doing the intro whilst walking his dog Rosie. He often describes her joyfulness at going for a walk and it’s an excellent way to set the scene and put you in the mood for a ramble chat.
I think the appealing thing about all of these podcasts is that the presenters are non-judgemental. They really sound as though they understand what it’s like to feel like you don’t quite fit and they make this not only ok, but a positive thing. I love the idea that imperfection is okay and that whoever you are, you’re ok.
I hope you’ll check out these recommendations if you have trouble sleeping or need to be entertained on a long journey. They are also good for killing time at the airport or waiting for your kids to finish their after school activities. They brighten my days and more importantly make the long sleepless nights more bearable. They also have long back catalogues, so there’s plenty to listen to if you become a fan.
I would love to know if you have any favourites that you’d like to recommend.
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